Facebook's head of global safety, Antigone Davis has some tips to help parents and teenagers take more control over their security and privacy, and keep children safer online.
“Whether your child is creating an online account for the very first time or you have a teen browsing the Internet with little supervision, every parent has a role in making the Internet a safer place for all. These best practices make that responsibility a bit more manageable and can be presented as ‘resolutions’ every parent should make in 2016 or as simple tips and tricks for keeping your kids safer online,” says Davis.
1) Think before you post. It is easy to be caught up in the moment and write or do something that may seem funny at the time. However, remember, what you say can really hurt someone, or come back to haunt you.
We have found it helpful to think about these questions before posting: Is this how I want people to see me? Could somebody use this to hurt my reputation or me? Would I be upset if they shared it with others? What is the worst thing that could happen if I shared this?
Also, remember that any information you post – whether in a comment, a note or a video chat – might be shared in ways that you did not intend. Before you post, ask yourself, “Would I be OK if this content was shared widely at school or with my future employer?”
Of course, we all make mistakes. If you find yourself wishing you had not said or done something, it is never too late to apologise.
2) Know whom you are communicating with. On Facebook, every time you share something – a post, a photo or a link – you choose exactly who can see it. You also choose your friends on Facebook and for this reason, it is important only to accept friend requests from people you know. If you ever receive hurtful or abusive messages or posts on your profile, you have options. Depending on how serious the situation is, you can ignore it, ask the person to stop, unfriend or block the person or tell your parents, a teacher, a counsellor, or another adult you trust. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect.
3) Play your part. On Facebook, you can always report abusive content—whether it is on your profile page, or someone else’s. Everyone who uses Facebook agrees to abide by its community standards, which define what kind of posts are welcome and are not welcome. For example, hate speech, graphic violence and bullying are not allowed on Facebook and we remove this type of content when it is reported. You can also report inappropriate Pages, Groups, Events and fake or impostor profiles. (Remember that reporting is confidential, so no one will know who made the report.)
“This list is just a start. Facebook is a community but a community only works well if it has certain rules and resources to ensure people feel safe. That is why we are so dedicated to providing the Facebook community with the tools needed to feel safe and supported. However, a community also requires people to take care of it and act responsibly. This month, take some time to think about the ways you can be a better neighbour on Facebook.”
1) Stick with what works. Typically, you can employ the same parenting style for your kid's online activities as you do offline. If you find your child responds best to a negotiated agreement, create a contract that you can both sign. Alternatively, maybe your child just needs to know the basic rules. In that case, you can establish them early when you first buy a mobile device for him or her.
2) The old adage your kids will “do as you do, not as you say,” is as true online as it is offline. Try to be a good role model. If you set time restrictions on when your child can use social media or be online (eg no texting after 10.00 pm), modelling that same behaviour makes a big difference. If you want your child to be civil online, model civility and respect in your texts to him or her.
3) Engage early and establish norms. Data suggests parents should engage online with their children as soon as they are on social media, by friending them as soon as they join Facebook or following them on Instagram when they sign up. It gets harder to do so if you wait. While this is not surprising, it is worth noting that just as you lay the foundation for dialogue and conversation offline with your children early, you have to lay that foundation early online. Even before they are on social media, talk to them about technology as a whole. It can help lay the groundwork for future conversations.
4) Seize key moments. There are many natural times to have these conversations: when they get their first mobile phone (it is a good time to establish ground rules), when your child turns 13 and is old enough to join Facebook, Instagram and other social media services, or when your child gets a driver's license (it is a good times to discuss the importance of not texting and driving).
5) Ask your children to teach you. Not on Instagram? Maybe you are interested in trying a streaming music service? If your children are already familiar with these services, they can be an excellent resource. The conversation can also serve as an opportunity to talk about issues of safety, privacy and security. For example, maybe you can ask them questions about privacy settings as you set up your own Facebook account. In addition, as most parents know all too well, your child will likely appreciate the opportunity to teach you.
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